OTHER LOVE

To make things perfectly clear....there are no bigger fans in Chuckwa's life than his family...especially his mother, whom he refers often to as 

his angel

She writes him every day

Can you imagine the pain you would feel to know that a child you love is incarcerated?  I'm not sure there would be a more difficult thing to endure.

There are so many statistics that I would like to know...one of which is how many inmates have no one and no support from the outside world.  Imagine the hopelessness you would feel if you were in prison with no one at all?
At least Chuckwa has loved ones who lift him up.

In letters from Chuckwa, I have come to believe his heartaches came from losing love in adult relationships, aka, the women in his life.

We have all suffered through breakups that have lasted weeks/months, and in some cases maybe we have never recovered from.  Love lost can be devastating, true?

There is no doubt that Chuckwa is a loving person with so much good inside his heart.  He loved his grandparents, his parents, his younger brother, his children and the mothers of his children.  So how did it come to be that he would end up in prison?

The first time I viewed his arrest record, I noticed that he was arrested on Christmas Eve...and he was intoxicated.  This said one thing to me and one thing only....

pain/heartache

He was arrested and charged with retaliation and assault on a public servant...

that Christmas Eve 

was the fork in his road

** "As far as you getting off track on the blog goes....my mom said there was something that wasn't right.  When I got out of prison, I was able to stay with my mom and dad until I got on my feet.  I had a new girlfriend and all that stuff.  I left my youngest boy's mother because she got pregnant by someone else.  That's where S******* came from.  Later when we broke up is when I lived in a tent due to the fact that I was messing around with another man's girl, my dad didn't agree with what I was doing and wouldn't let me stay there.  He don't believe in that type of thing.  That's right before I went to stay with Mike. I had just gotten on my feet and out of the tent, when the warrant was issued to revoke my bond.  I had just worked so hard and everything I had worked for was taken away."

Psalm 119: 50 My comfort in my suffering is this: Your promise preserves my life.

EMOTICONS

EMOTICON

I have been a person a very long time now

and I have been through my share of

hate

sadness

hurt

forgiveness

joy

moving on

I do believe that anger almost always disguises

hurt

men/boys especially, do not know how to show hurt and sadness 

so this emotion often exhibits itself as

lashing out, mean, aggressive and sometimes physical bad behavior

I read a book when my children were all small by Dr. James Dobson and I will never forget what I considered one of the most poignant lessons for a parent and even a spouse....because after all...most of our lives is spent being an adult rather than a child....

"when children/people are acting out...their emotional tank is empty.  Rather than trying to punish bad behavior, take 10 minutes and gather them up in your lap/arms and just hold them.  Talk to them, stroke them, touch them, love them.  You will be surprised how the bad behavior will melt away."

  Because all they need...all anyone really needs....

is love

Psalm 34:18

¹⁸ The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.

THE SUN

ANGEL

There is no bigger fan in a boy/man's life

than his mother

she loves him with a love that cannot be 

explained

duplicated

ended

and is unconditional 

regardless

Chuckwa to Gina:  PS.  I have a picture of me and my mom together in 2006.  I have deal that goes with it called "The Sun is Always Shining", so if you can put it with the picture, that would be good. Thank You.

Diane Crabtree:  Dear Gina, I just want to thank you for being a friend to and helping Chuckwa.  He thinks the world of you and I appreciate you too.  God's blessings be with you and yours. Love, Diane Crabtree

PROVERBS 31:28